Help! I'm My Mother!!

This morning I had an out of body experience. I went to my usual exercise class and we had a sub. Okay, no problem. Always nice to mix it up a little. Well, the first song she played was Bob Segar's Old Time Rock and Roll, and all of a sudden I was my mother. She was in the mirror moving her arms and legs. I was her! I was her and we were back in the house I grew up in and she was dancing around the kitchen before dinner. Is that her upper arm? Those are definitely her elbows and feet. This is too weird. After that song mercifully ended, the instructor started in with all these songs from the '80's. Songs I used to listen to as a teenager, and I was my mother again. I'm the same age my mother was when I graduated from high school. I can remember how she looked and acted and things she said, and now I'm her. Not all the time, but enough so that it freaks me out. No disrespect to my mom (love you, Mom!), I just don't think anyone wants to FEEL like their mom. It's like a giant time clock ticking down the minutes of your life. It's fate laughing at you, saying you thought you were different, but you can't hide from heredity. You will be like your parents, just as they were like theirs.

And it's not just me. My siblings are becoming my parents, too. I talked to one of my brothers on the phone the other night and he was my dad. Same voice, same inflection, expressing the same frustrations with computers and social media. When my other brother walked up my driveway, I did a double-take. He looks like my dad did 25 years ago. How did that happen? Sometimes when I catch a glimpse of my sister, I can see my mother when I was a kid. If I see her profile, I'm transported back in time. So weird. Don't even get me started on voices. When my siblings and I are together, I think of how my aunts, uncles, and parents used to be with their laughter, veiled adult references and topics that were so fascinating for me to listen in on as a child. I feel like my grandmother will emerge offering drinks and pretzels any minute.

I laugh at the irony. My teenagers, I'm sure, would be mortified to think they'll someday be like mom and dad. They've declared many times they will NEVER act like us, talk like us, be embarrassing like us. And yet they will. It will creep in slowly and they won't be able to stop it. They won't even mind some of it. They'll laugh about it with their own kids. 

Declaring you won't be like your parents doesn't end. I still think to myself, I will never do that. I'll never say that, I'll never let that bother me, but who knows. I couldn't stop becoming like my mom at this age, so I doubt I'll be able to keep it from happening over the next 20 years. I'll try to hold it at bay and I'll be successful in some areas, but she will still show up in the mirror. I'll still hear her voice in mine. Sometimes it creates a warm feeling of nostalgia and sometimes it helps me to better understand who she was. But mostly, it freaks me out!

I was SO relieved when the instructor finally played Katy Perry's Roar at the end of class. Okay, I'm back. That's me in the mirror again. I'm not completely my mother...yet!

Me, my mom, and my sister

Tell me I'm not alone. Are you seeing your mom emerge in you, too? Are you doing and saying things you swore you'd never do? Is that her staring back at you in the mirror?



29 comments:

  1. Lol, I love this, I am so like my mum in many ways. We don't look at all alike but it's there in my mannerisms and some of the things I say, I get more like her every day I think! But my mum is lovely and a lot of fun so I guess I could do worse! There are a few habits I want to try and avoid taking on though! Only time will tell i I manage though! xx Lovely post #allaboutyou

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    1. Thanks, Caroline! Good to know I'm not alone! :)

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  2. Hilarious! Amen and amen. It's been happening for years and I can't deny it when my husband tells me so on a regular basis. "You sounded just like your sister!" or "That's your Mom, right there." How about parting your hair a new way and being told he's reminded of your Aunt? Yep, happens all the time.

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    1. Love the parting your hair comment! Also, I'm sure he meant "you sounded just like your sister" as the highest form of a compliment!! :)

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  3. This is a great post and so right. It's not so much me I see becoming my mother but one of my sisters. I visited her at the weekend and as I was listening to her talk and watching her mannerisms she reminded me of my mother when I was young. Isn't it funny how we constantly say we won't become them yet can't stop it from happening? #AllAboutYou

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  4. Deja vu is such a weird, sometimes creepy feeling. I think it's so nice that you have these reminders that your parents, aunties and uncles were just like your generation and are not just 'old' people. #sharewithme

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    1. So true, Alexandra! Thanks for stopping by here! :)

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  5. Amazing post! So true. I have been doing the same thinking I am turning into my mother slowly but definitely surely!!!! I am her all the way. Its crazy to think about it as a kid you would be mortified but it will eventually happen. Your post made me nod in agreement but laugh my head off too. I loved it. Thank you EVER so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

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    1. Thanks, Jenny! Appreciate you visiting me! :)

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  6. Yes! Yes, i AM my mother! And i too, think about how my mum was at my age....i remember her 40th (ok not QUITE there yet...am 37) so vividly! Ach it's inevitable isn't it?! But it's not a bad thing really. :) Great post! #sharewithme.

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  7. Love, love, love this! Thanks for the smile today, Marie, and know that you are oh so not alone!

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  8. Yes I think I am becoming her in a way but not totally. She is a good mom and me i am still struggling to be a good one =P thanks for sharing this! Its so fun to read =) #sharewithme

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  9. hehee, it happens to all of us! I notice as I yell 'why do you walk past your stuff on the stairs?' My mum was always asking me that and now here I am. But although the thought was horrifying as a teenager, I quite like it now. She's alright is my mum! But I have a much younger brother, so when I'm at home I get to revert to being a squabbling sibling. Keeps me young ;)

    #allaboutyou

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    1. Glad you can relate! It's funny to hear our mom's words come out! :)

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  10. Oh yes! In a lot of ways I am my mother :) But, I am not her in just as many ways. It's interesting to find your mothers words coming out of your mouth, especially when you vowed they never would :) #ShareWithMe

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  11. I have seriously been thinking the same thing about myself lately, too! It's comforting to know that I'm not the ONLY one who feels like they're turning into their parents. :)

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    1. Everything is always better when you know you're not the only one! :)

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  12. Hahaha, oh I can definitely relate. I'll say things and SEE that it was so my mom, without even having to see myself. The smallest gestures or looks, and then my tone and words I choose to use. It really is freaky. When it comes to those types of things, I really am more like my mom than my dad. So weird!

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  13. This sounds just like me! I hear things come out of my mouth and I look around for my mom - and then realize I JUST SAID THAT! I remember my mom turning 40 when I was a senior in high school, and I was so embarrassed to have such an "old" mom - ha ha! Now I realize how young she was. Thanks for a great post. Have a wonderful weekend!

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    1. Thanks, Lana! Funny how you can remember 40 seeming so old. I'd love to be 40 again! :)

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  14. I love the title of your post. I found your site at the #AllAboutYou link and pin party and had to click on your post. I've thought "Help, I'm my mother" too many times to count, but then I think of how amazing my mother is and I think, "that's not so bad...breathe...breathe" haha Love your post.

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    1. Yes, it's not a bad thing, just one that catches you off guard! :) Thanks for visiting here!

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  15. Oh God yes, it is scary I agree, but kind of comforting too. The three of you look amazing!

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  16. I just found your blog on the Wake Up Wednesday blog hop, and I'm your newest follower on Bloglovin! :) You are most definitely not alone! I'm my mother and my husband is his dad. Weird, weird, weird. Despite our best efforts, it creeps in. Funny post!

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    1. Thank you so much, Chelsea! Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for following me on Bloglovin'! :)

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  17. this so made me smile, it was only today i was having a discussion with my hubby when i realised everything i had said for the last 5 minutes had been like listening to my mother x

    thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments x

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    1. Thanks, Jaime! Did your husband notice? :)

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